Porn Damaged My Boyfriend!

My boyfriend I have been together for three years now and looking forward to our honeymoon. The thing is we only managed to be together because I asked him to call a London escort agency and book an escort. You may be asking why I would go to such an extreme lengths?

Here’s my story a few years back

I’m in a relationship with a nice guy and we’ed been dating for a few months – almost since the time I had arrived in London. I am so deeply in love with him! While he was a great guy, he seemed so shy about getting into a physical relationship leaving me completely frustrated, which is why I decided we should finally take our relationship to a new level.  I carefully approached him few times and tried to hint that I really want to have sex with him and that I am ready for it. What amazed me was his reaction each time: he would constantly change the subject. My experience with previous boyfriends gave me a hint that something was wrong, because most of them were convincing me to have sex, not seeking for an escape pathway.

Then I decided I should be as straight-forward as possible. My boyfriend finally admitted that he has been addicted to porn for over a decade and that he had a condition called erectile dysfunction, as a result of intensive masturbation to porn and he felt it had left him damaged when it came to being intimate with real women. The discovery was shocking, but I wasn’t going to give up on him. We decided to give it a try…

The disastrous first attempt made us realized a few facts:

My boyfriend wasn’t able to have a normal erection.

He had no feelings in his penis and had to be forced to raise an erection.

He couldn’t get turn on by just my body alone and needed porn

As you can imagine it was devestating to my self confidence as woman, how could I possibly compete with the women on the screens? We tried various suggestions from some really close friends to make his erection harder and painless, but they proved ineffective in our case. Then I asked my boyfriend to do some research together with me, checking on websites, health sites for advice and even on online forums where found that this was far from uncommon. We found t that there were other couples with the similar problem and there was a solution to his problem!

Obviously, there were a lot of men experiencing erectile dysfunction because of excessive porn watching. Some studies found out that these guys have developed a condition similar to drug and alcohol addicted people. Their brains used to react the same way to the stimuli of porn as an alcoholic/drug addict would when their own obsession was present.

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The first step was a total restriction to porn websites, videos, pictures, etc. The abstinence was quite a hard thing for him to pass through, but I supported him all the way. However he stil had issues with getting intimate and was extremely frustrated as he kept thinking he was failing as a man and what little self respect he had was diminishing. I kept reassuring him it was OK and that I we would work things out but it was getting to the point where I just wanted to leave as I couldn’t bear the constant arguments and his ever worsening outbursts.

It was at this point that we saw an ex-escort on the daily main who was able to help couples get intimate with themselves and give advice on how to have a better sex life even for those who were sexually disadvantaged however she was fully booked. After a long and deeply emotional converstion with my boyfriend, I decided to make that one last call to salvage our relationship

After finding an escort that specialised in Tantric Sex Therpay we booked our first session as couple and what we learned with her was amazing, there is more to love making then being physical. After a few sessions, he was feeling more confident in his sexual abilities. He was even able to get aroused just by my touch (without porn involved in the picture). I am very thankful to the escort agency in London we have contacted with. There would have probably been no improvement (or simply a slower one) without the help of the very warm and gentle speaking Tantric Therapist. Anyway, we can both experience pleasure from sex at the moment and looking forward to our first child and I owe it all to the expert who helped me and my bofriend get over the debilitating effects of porn.

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